6 Reasons Texting While Dating is Stupid


UGH! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – texting me as the primary form of communication is a deal breaker! For all you nay-sayers, here’s why. In fact, I’ll give you 6 good reasons why:

  1. Texting is boring. A sample:

Him: Hey, how’s your day.

Me: Great! How’s yours?

Him: good. I did my laundry, but haven’t gotten to my ironing done yet.

  1. Texting is shallow.

Him: Did your kiddos make it to their first day of school okay?

Me: Ya! They weren’t as excited as I was.

The honest to goodness truth is, getting the boys back to school was a hard emotional day. We had a rotten summer and I wasn’t ready for it to be over. I really wanted a summer do-over. This would be a meaningful conversation over the phone, but by text is sounds so whiny and drawn out. How am I supposed to communicate this kind of depth in a text when he was just simply asking about my day?

  1. Texting lacks commitment.

It’s so easy to toss out a few “how are you texts” and call it good for the day, heck maybe even a few days. Once we’ve had our fill, we get bored with each other (see reason number 1) and we have no more reason to call. Men, I’m not out to add another phone number to my cute, flirty, texty list. But, texting has evolved into quick interactions, the illusion of getting to know someone and the big let down when I never get a phone call.

  1. Texting lacks intimacy.

Not the right kind of intimacy anyway. In fact, it can be so impersonal, soon we find ourselves venturing into dangerous territory under the illusion that it’s “safe”. Thus, “sexting” is born. Finding intimacy in this way is temporarily exciting, but leaves everyone feeling empty and frankly leaves us women feeling used.

  1. Texting is a big fat giant tease.

I get the cute little butterflies when a text comes in, “bling!” But then, a few texts later, when I can’t say exactly what I want and we’ve gone from shallow to more shallow, I am so hungry for a real conversation. Before I know it we’ve stopped texting because there is nothing more riveting to say and I feel a little duped. And yet, I sit and wait, wondering why I’ve never gotten a call.

  1. Texting is a relationship killer.

Nothing will kill a budding relationship faster than downshifting from phone calls to texting. Is it any wonder? We’re bored, shallow, and uncommitted. Texting is the perfect communication tool for people too afraid to tackle the real work of dating. Sometimes I find myself asking, “was the relationship dying before I was demoted to texting, or did the relationship die because we started texting. It’s difficult, no actually, impossible to tell. One thing is for certain, texting played a part and the relationship has officially run its course.